Depicts how you see the relationship with your husband; your relationship with your sexuality; sexual and emotional desire and pleasure; how you relate to intimacy in body, mind and spirit; habits of relationship developed with one’s father.
Example: ‘My recurring dream—some disaster is happening. I try to contact the police or my husband. Can never contact either. I try ringing 999 again and again and can feel terror, and sometimes dreadful anger or complete panic. I cry, I scream and shout and never get through! Recently I have stopped trying to contact my husband. I managed once to reach him but he said he was too busy and I would have to deal with it myself. I woke in a furious temper with him and kicked him while he was still asleep’ (Mrs GS).
The husband here depicts Mrs S’s feelings of not being able to get through’ to her man. This is a common female dream theme, possibly arising from the husband not daring to express emotion or meet his panner with his own feelings.
For Mrs S this is an emergency. Although the dream dramatises it, there is still real frustration, anger, and a break in marital communications.
Example: There were three of us. My husband, a male friend and 1, all nding small white enamel bikes. My husband proceeded slowly, first, with his back to us. Then my friend followed. Suddenly my friend ahead of me turned and gazed fully at me. He gave a glonous smile which lit up the whole of his face. I felt a great sense of well-being surge through me’ (Joan B).
The triangle: the example shows typical flow of feeling towards another male.
The other male here depicts
Joan’s desire to be attractive to other men. This is a danger signal unless one fully acknowledges ihe impulse.
Example: ‘I was with my husband and our three children. About 2 or 3 yards to our right stood my husband’s first wife —she died about a year before I first met him. I remember feeling she no longer minded me being with him, so I put my arms around him from the back, and felt more secure and comfortable with him’ (Mrs NS).
The first wife: the dreamer is now feeling easier about her husband’s first relationship.
The first wife represents her sense of competing for her husband’s affections, even though his ‘first woman’ was dead.
Example: ‘My dead husband came into my bedroom and got into bed with me to make love to me. I was not afraid. But owing to his sexual appetites during my married life with him I was horrified, and resisted him with all my might. On waking I felt weak and exhausted.
The last time he came to me I responded to him and he never came back again. This happened three times.
The last time I don’t think it was a dream. I was not asleep. I think it was his ghost’ (GL). Dead husband: in any experience of an apparently psychic nature, we must always remember the unconscious is a great dramatist. It can create the drama of a dream in moments. In doing so it makes our inner feelings into apparently real people and objects outside us. While asleep we lightly dismiss this amazing process as a dream’. When it happens while our eyes are open or we are near waking, for some reason we call it a ghost or psychic event. Yet the dream process is obviously capable of creating total body sensations, emotions, full visual impressions, vocalisation—what else is a dream? On the other hand, the dream process is not dealing in pointless imaginations. Many women tend to believe they have little sexual drive, so it is easier for GL to see her drive in the form of her husband. But of course, her husband may also depict how she felt about sex in connection with his ‘sexual appetites’.
It is a general rule, however, that our dream process will dramatise into a past life, or a psychic’ experience, emotions linked with trauma or sexual drive which we find difficult to meet in the present.
Example: ‘I dreamt many times I lost my husband, such as not being able to find the car park where he was waiting, and seeing him go off in the distance. I wake in a panic to find him next to me in bed. These dreams persisted, and then he died quite suddenly. He was perfectly healthy at the time of the dreams and I wonder if it was a premonition of me really losing him’ (Mrs AD). Cannot find husband: many middle aged women dream of ‘losing’ their husband while out with him, perhaps shopping, or walking in a town somewhere. Sometimes the dream ponrays him actually killed. Mrs AD wonders if her dream was a premonition.
It is more likely a form of practising the loss, so it does not come as such a shock.
The greatest shocks occur when we have never even considered the event—such as a young child losing its mother, an event it has never practised, not even in fantasy, so has no inbuilt shock absorbers. As most of us know, men tend to die before women, and this information is in the mind of middle-aged married women. Mrs AD may have unconsciously observed slight changes in her husband’s body and behaviour, and therefore readied herself.
Other woman’s husband: one’s own husband, feelings about that man, desire for a non-committed relationship with less responsibility.
[1]To dream that your husband is leaving you, and you do not understand why, there will be bitterness between you, but an unexpected reconciliation will ensue.
If he mistreats and upbraids you for unfaithfulness, you will hold his regard and confidence, but other worries will ensue and you are warned to be more discreet in receiving attention from men.
If you see him dead, disappointment and sorrow will envelop you.
To see him pale and careworn, sickness will tax you heavily, as some of the family will linger in bed for a time.
To see him gay and handsome, your home will be filled with happiness and bright prospects will be yours.
If he is sick, you will be mistreated by him and he will be unfaithful.
To dream that he is in love with another woman, he will soon tire of his present surroundings and seek pleasure elsewhere.
To be in love with another woman’s husband in your dreams, denotes that you are not happily married, or that you are not happy unmarried, but the chances for happiness are doubtful.
For an unmarried woman to dream that she has a husband, denotes that she is wanting in the graces which men most admire.
To see your husband depart from you, and as he recedes from you he grows larger, inharmonious surroundings will prevent immediate congeniality.
If disagreeable conclusions are avoided, harmony will be reinstated.
For a woman to dream she sees her husband in a compromising position with an unsuspected party, denotes she will have trouble through the indiscretion of friends.
If she dreams that he is killed while with another woman, and a scandal ensues, she will be in danger of separating from her husband or losing property. Unfavorable conditions follow this dream, though the evil is often exaggerated.
[2]To dream of your husband may simply be a dream about your relationship and your unconscious feelings about it. On the other hand, he may also represent the male side of your personality (animus) or your father. A woman’s view of herself will have been formed by her connection with her father and any subsequent relationship will be colored by that attachment.
If doubts about validity and intimacy are not properly resolved in her waking life, they will appear in dreams about the loss or death of her husband. They may also be projected onto other women’s husbands in dreams.
If your husband goes missing in your dream or you can’t find him while out with him, your unconscious may be referring to the well-known statistic that most men die before women.
If your husband is dead in both your dream and in your waking life, this refers to the memories you have shared with him.
If another woman’s husband appears, this may refer to a desire for a relationship outside your current one.
If you are having sex with your husband in your dream, this can be a wonderful indicator of how you are feeling about your sexual and emotional relationship with him.
If your first husband appears in your dreams, this represents nostalgia for the past, or more obliquely, competition for your current husband.
See Also: Gay relationships in RELATIONSHIPS.
[3]Dreams of a husband represent the provider/protector aspect of yourself.
If you are an unmarried man dreaming of being a husband, then you are processing your aspirations/hopes/fears of one day being married.
If you are a married man, then this dream can represent your assimilation of the pressure of being the breadwinner.
If you are a married woman, this can also be your assimilation of your idealized husband versus the day to day reality, expectations and demands that you have of your actual husband.
If you are an unmarried woman, this dream may be your hope, fantasy, or “dream” of what your future husband will be.
[4]If an unmarried woman dreams that she has a husband, she is fulfilling a desire that she thinks of in her waking hours. When a married woman dreams of her husband there may be some incident or something very unusual that should be analyzed. Among the possibilities are quarrels that unsuspectingly could mean that the wife herself may be causing uncomfortable situations for her husband; illness or an accident in the dream may be a fear complex on the part of the wife; seeing him with another woman indicates jealousy in the subconscious mind of the dreamer.
[5]To dream of your husband indicates your feelings for and relationship with him.
To dream of having a husband when you are single points to relationships in general. Most girls look for their father’s personality or traits while choosing their life partners. Those traits often represent the male side of a girl’s character. All this is represented when a girl dreams of a husband with all those traits she admires or dreads.
[6]To dream that you have a husband (but you do not in your waking life), symbolizes your need for partnership or commitment.
If you dream of your real-life husband, your dream represents your emotions around this relationship. Look up other symbols, or feelings you had, in the dream for further meaning.
[7]If a woman’s husband v^ms to be leaving her, it is a sign that quarrels will ensue, but the chances are that through some unusual circumstance there will be a reconciliation and a happy outcome.
[8]1. Aspects of the dreamer, possibly the male (even “fathering”) side of self.
2. Unconscious feelings toward actual husband.
3. The “fertility” of ideas and creativity.
[9]An omen of contrary regarding love affairs.
If you dreamed of being married when- you aren’t it signifies a serious lovers’ quarrel and/or a broken relationship.
[10]An omen of contrary in the case of lovers, for if you dream that you are married, when you are not, then expect a quarrel with one dear to you.
[11]Your wish will not be granted.
If you fall in love with another woman’s husband, it indicates that you are growing vicious.
[12]If not literal, an authoritative figure in control of a mutual situation, i.E.
A boss, partner, etc.; See “marry”
[13]Masculine part of self. Qualities you project on husband. Perception of relationship with husband.
See Also: Male.
[14]1. Something you are deeply committed to (ministry, “married to your job”)
2. Jesus, literal husband.
[15]See Also: Family
[16]lucky numbers: 12-13-19-21-22-38
beating his wife: are laying yourself open for criticism with your behavior.
caressing: wil be advantageously married within a year.
divorcing: if you can relieve the bitterness, a reconciliation is possible.
calming one’s: wil have a violent family quarrel.
checking on: unfitted for position of loyal married person.
good, having a: a meaningful relationship wil develop and last.
losing a, by death: important and very beneficial events to come.
love with another, is in: be prepared for the worst by taking care of your needs.
marrying a second: mistreatment; the foibles of first marriage tarnish the second.
nagging his wife: events occur over which you have no control; al ow her that.
neglecting your: you are not being supported by your husband.
of a, when unmarried: are not ready to commit to marriage; or no one wil commit to you?
others flirting with your: wil live together al your life, yet he seeks pleasure elsewhere.
someone else’s, liking: immediate congeniality impossible with emotional baggage.
wanting to divorce your: must control your passions until harmony is reinstated.
wife nagging her: circumstances wil improve after a visit with the doctor.
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