Dreams in which one partner dominates the other often have sexual overtones.
If you are in the role of dominator, this may mask sexual insecurity; if you are in the role of the submissive, this may mask incestuous desire for a parent. On the other hand, such dreams may stem from the strong desire to gain the upper hand in a relationship. Whips often symbolize a desire for, or fear of, domination in dreams. A similar interpretation can be attributed to accompanying sadomasochistic equipment such as silver chains, leather clothing and straps, and black boots and heels. Fetishes are a fixation on an external object without which there would be no sex act, and in dreams they can highlight fear, immaturity and a lack of libido
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